5 Reasons Why We Should Say “No” More Often!

5 Reasons Why We Should Say “No” More Often!

Every one of us has given in to the persistent persuasion of a friend or an acquaintance before. And it usually leaves a heavy, guilty feeling within us when we realise we have better things to do, but we have already accepted the invitation. Sound familiar? Today, I’ll show you how to work around the question of whether to say yes or no… As the winter has set in, I have found myself saying more no’s than yes’ to catch-ups, events, and even work demands. The power of saying “no” has really given me back my sanity and the ability to breathe and take a moment. Saying no means I can make more yes’ to myself, my personal health, and my family. Because of my decision, everyone in my family has been able to slow down the pace and spend more time together at home. As a busy person, I tend to be everywhere most of the time both for professional and personal affairs. This habit of mine has enabled me to transform into someone with a serious case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). After changing this time-consuming habit of saying yes to anyone and anything, I was able to evolve from someone suffering from constant FOMO to a productive person who takes pride in having JOMO (Joy of Missing Out). People, events, and offers were not the only things I said no to. I began saying no to spending a good amount of my time scrolling endlessly through my social media accounts or anything digital for that matter. Saying yes to too many things you can simply...
Be intentional. Stop repetitive day-to-day tasks that don’t create progress. Start setting real achievable goals!

Be intentional. Stop repetitive day-to-day tasks that don’t create progress. Start setting real achievable goals!

Intentionality. Why are you doing what you do? Do you lack intention, clarity or purpose? A good friend of mine has chosen her word of the year as “intention”. When I really thought about the word and its meaning, “thinking and acting on purpose and deliberate”, it really is an awesome word we certainly don’t embrace enough. There isn’t many of us who proceed with life with the thought of intentionality. For example, how many times do you walk into a meeting not having or understanding its intention? Without a clear purpose, distractions creep in and you get off track very fast and freely, go overtime and still are not sure of the ‘why’ of the meeting.. truly it was a waste of time and time you don’t have or will ever get back. Try checking your next meeting agenda and look for the intention or real purpose. Be prepared, ask the right questions and leave with SMART outcomes. Look around you and see if you can spot those who walk and talk with intention, how successful and confident are they?     People who think and act with intention… Always have a clear perception of what they want to achieve in their personal and professional life, they take action that becomes a stepping stone they can use to attain their goals, they works effectively even with distractions and deliver output that doesn’t stray and decides on trivial matters consistently.   People who DON’T think and act with intention… Experience a hard time keeping and making goals. They live day-to-day doing repetitive tasks that do not create progress and...
The Resilient Mindset and How to Develop It

The Resilient Mindset and How to Develop It

Being Resilient Is Your Choice. Are You a Victim or a Victor? Through the years of working as a champion facilitator, I’ve found being resilient to be one of the chief qualities any good leader must possess. It’s the first thing I notice about someone when I get my chance to talk to them. I once thought that being resilient was something only a few humans possess. What I didn’t know was that it could be developed. Being resilient was more of a skill you can develop from countless encounters with problems that may not all be similarly challenging. I spend a lot of time with very successful and intelligent leaders who are immersed in team building programs and courses I deliver. It’s always interesting to observe the levels of resilience when they become frustrated by tasks/obstacles and challenges. Here are some of the things I’ve noticed during those activities that placed high on my observation chart: Assumptions People make assumptions about everything from what the other is thinking down to what they are doing outside of the group . It’s a common scenario where one may start thinking, “I bet Paul is talking about our team strategy”. Blaming “I told you that wouldn’t work, it’s your problem now” “We didn’t have enough time/money/resources for that too work” “It’s impossible, can’t be done” (I love this one) These are only some of the most common things people blame each other for. Catastrophising “What if we can’t do it? We won’t get recognised! We won’t receive rewards and we’ll look like failures” To push the envelope further, catastrophising turns the...