5 Reasons Why We Should Say “No” More Often!

5 Reasons Why We Should Say “No” More Often!

Every one of us has given in to the persistent persuasion of a friend or an acquaintance before. And it usually leaves a heavy, guilty feeling within us when we realise we have better things to do, but we have already accepted the invitation. Sound familiar? Today, I’ll show you how to work around the question of whether to say yes or no… As the winter has set in, I have found myself saying more no’s than yes’ to catch-ups, events, and even work demands. The power of saying “no” has really given me back my sanity and the ability to breathe and take a moment. Saying no means I can make more yes’ to myself, my personal health, and my family. Because of my decision, everyone in my family has been able to slow down the pace and spend more time together at home. As a busy person, I tend to be everywhere most of the time both for professional and personal affairs. This habit of mine has enabled me to transform into someone with a serious case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). After changing this time-consuming habit of saying yes to anyone and anything, I was able to evolve from someone suffering from constant FOMO to a productive person who takes pride in having JOMO (Joy of Missing Out). People, events, and offers were not the only things I said no to. I began saying no to spending a good amount of my time scrolling endlessly through my social media accounts or anything digital for that matter. Saying yes to too many things you can simply...
Be intentional. Stop repetitive day-to-day tasks that don’t create progress. Start setting real achievable goals!

Be intentional. Stop repetitive day-to-day tasks that don’t create progress. Start setting real achievable goals!

Intentionality. Why are you doing what you do? Do you lack intention, clarity or purpose? A good friend of mine has chosen her word of the year as “intention”. When I really thought about the word and its meaning, “thinking and acting on purpose and deliberate”, it really is an awesome word we certainly don’t embrace enough. There isn’t many of us who proceed with life with the thought of intentionality. For example, how many times do you walk into a meeting not having or understanding its intention? Without a clear purpose, distractions creep in and you get off track very fast and freely, go overtime and still are not sure of the ‘why’ of the meeting.. truly it was a waste of time and time you don’t have or will ever get back. Try checking your next meeting agenda and look for the intention or real purpose. Be prepared, ask the right questions and leave with SMART outcomes. Look around you and see if you can spot those who walk and talk with intention, how successful and confident are they?     People who think and act with intention… Always have a clear perception of what they want to achieve in their personal and professional life, they take action that becomes a stepping stone they can use to attain their goals, they works effectively even with distractions and deliver output that doesn’t stray and decides on trivial matters consistently.   People who DON’T think and act with intention… Experience a hard time keeping and making goals. They live day-to-day doing repetitive tasks that do not create progress and...
The Resilient Mindset and How to Develop It

The Resilient Mindset and How to Develop It

Being Resilient Is Your Choice. Are You a Victim or a Victor? Through the years of working as a champion facilitator, I’ve found being resilient to be one of the chief qualities any good leader must possess. It’s the first thing I notice about someone when I get my chance to talk to them. I once thought that being resilient was something only a few humans possess. What I didn’t know was that it could be developed. Being resilient was more of a skill you can develop from countless encounters with problems that may not all be similarly challenging. I spend a lot of time with very successful and intelligent leaders who are immersed in team building programs and courses I deliver. It’s always interesting to observe the levels of resilience when they become frustrated by tasks/obstacles and challenges. Here are some of the things I’ve noticed during those activities that placed high on my observation chart: Assumptions People make assumptions about everything from what the other is thinking down to what they are doing outside of the group . It’s a common scenario where one may start thinking, “I bet Paul is talking about our team strategy”. Blaming “I told you that wouldn’t work, it’s your problem now” “We didn’t have enough time/money/resources for that too work” “It’s impossible, can’t be done” (I love this one) These are only some of the most common things people blame each other for. Catastrophising “What if we can’t do it? We won’t get recognised! We won’t receive rewards and we’ll look like failures” To push the envelope further, catastrophising turns the...
5 Tips for an Emotional Yet Healthy Self-Talk

5 Tips for an Emotional Yet Healthy Self-Talk

Do you often feel misaligned with your higher values and work goals? Do you lash out and respond fast without thinking what you just said? Do you get irritated, frustrated and angry easily, often treating people in a harsh way? Do you often fail to gain insight and information to what your body is telling you? In my previous corporate role it was not uncommon within our busy, yet buzzing office to hear and see emotional outbursts from the senior team when undertaking high pressure tasks, meeting budget deadlines, and dealing with staff issues. I would usually stand up, signal to my team to keep their heads down and slowly close my door. The negativity was toxic and energy draining, so I would avoid the change in the atmosphere by quietly resorting to my office for the day, or suddenly announce that I have many appointments on the road. Sometimes I would simply head to the local coffee shop to work and soak up a more positive vibe of coffee goers flocking in to gain their daily caffeine hit. I would often drift and think about my team left to work in such a “bad vibe” environment. Many of them were accustomed to the behaviour and it was quite a normal event for them. What makes a leader have the power to change the vibe so quickly? How does this behaviour serve them? (For it serves no-one else) Is this about gaining personal power? All this thinking led me into further study and interest in Emotional Intelligence. And just what did I learn? Some great news! We can reverse...
The Power of a Personal Off-Site – a conference with yourself, a solo creative excursion.

The Power of a Personal Off-Site – a conference with yourself, a solo creative excursion.

As a leader, you are quite often planning or attending off site meetings and conferences for the whole team. You hope to ensure a jam packed agenda to keep everyone thinking, strategizing and entertained. When they’re over, although everyone else feels pumped and ready to power on through the next quarter, leaders are often exhausted.  When was the last time you actually planned a personal, solo off-site to regather your momentum? Where there is no agenda and you remain in a place of mindfulness, allowing creativity to flow and just breathe in your success. You too need time to reflect on your inner world and your purpose. Last year, my sister in law and I did just that, we booked a flight and 2 nights’ accommodation. Our goal was to just focus on two main things. Firstly, our inner world (mindfulness and me-time) and secondly forward planning for our biz. We didn’t know what these would look like but knew a change of location and the ocean air would allow our creativity to flow. It worked –  a change of place, a change of pace and a change of perspective. I was able to reset, reflect and refocus. I spent time alone walking, swimming and relaxing, while in deep thoughts as to the direction of my business, plans, goals, purpose and vision. The enlightenment and clarity that arrived on the pages of my notepad was to be my roadmap for the coming 12 months. My sister in law also became my ‘accountability buddy’. My top tips for planning a personal off-site; Choose a place which instantly makes you relax...
Aspiring to a positive Mum / Life balance!

Aspiring to a positive Mum / Life balance!

Was your life feeling off balance during of 2016? Did you have trouble trying to focus and stay on track? Do you feel like your exhausted at the end of every day, paddling away and not actually making any progress? Are you frustrated and impatient with your partner and kiddies? WELL! It’s a New Year and now is the best time to re-set (one of my favourite words!) As I reflect on the whirlwind of what was 2016, my mind is running 100 miles an hour. I think about things such as ‘when did Miss 4 become so inquisitive and develop so much attitude?’ at the same time as I’m telling myself to ‘calm down and breathe’. It’s during moment like this, where I make a mental note to revisit my synergy model. I need to figure out what’s mis-aligned.   Everyone needs to create their own synergy model – here is mine:                 As each on these circles grows smaller or larger, we become off balance. When this happens, it’s time to check yourself in and work on balancing the circles back to even. To achieve this, I usually book in more ‘me-time’. I need time to re-energise myself and fill up the oxygen tank. So within my diary I schedule non-negotiable ‘me-time’ which includes two gym sessions per week. It also involves coffee and lunch with like-minded friends who are energy givers (not taker’s – 2017 is the year to ditch these types of people!) at least twice a week. I also use my daily gratitude diary. While your ‘me...